How To Get Married During A Pandemic

A testimonial from a COVID bride

The past 7 years of my career have been spent with brides and grooms working tirelessly to make sure their big day is everything they had dreamt of. The most rewarding part of my job is walking with a bride to meet her father right before the ceremony, knowing all of your hard work has lead up to this. I’ve pictured this moment with my dad for years and was over the moon when my fiancé asked me to marry him and it was finally my turn! Never in our wildest dreams did we think our 2-year engagement would turn into 3.

In May of 2020 we started to receive phone calls from our friends and family expressing their concerns with attending a large event 6-months down the road. We knew already that there would be no way to safely accommodate 150 guests and had no intention on pushing the limits. We spent two weeks running through all the what-if’s before ultimately deciding that this was completely out of our control, and for everyone’s safety it would be best to postpone. With the help of our incredible vendors we were able to move our wedding to late 2021 and hopefully celebrate the way we had imagined.

Through this experience David and I learned three things. The first is it is ALWAYS okay to ask for help. Even as a wedding planner myself, the sheer emotion of having to cancel your big day was too big of a task for us to take on alone. Lean on the experts and let them guide you. They are there to help! Things can get tricky when family and friends offer assistance, so be sure to accept their aid in a capacity that you are comfortable with. Try to remember that help is usually being offered from a place of peace, so if their assistance becomes more of a headache it is absolutely okay to say no. If there is a task you would rather take on alone, say it! Don’t be afraid to voice your needs and set your boundaries.

The second is to go with the flow. This is much easier said than done, but ultimately it is the best way to try to beat stress of the unknown. COVID has changed the world in a way that no one could have imagined and continues to present us obstacles on a daily basis. Instead of trying to plan an event “after COVID”, focus on planning an event with current COVID guidelines in place.

The third and most important is to still CELEBRATE! COVID should not completely ruin your wedding, year or life. Instead, take this time to really reflect on why you are getting married and celebrate accordingly. My fiancé and I decided to elope with a select few on our original wedding date and have our extended family join us in 2021. It was the best decision we made thus far!

2020 did not deliver the cards we had hoped for, but we were able to still play with the cards we were dealt. A supportive partner, helpful family and friends and amazing vendors helped guide us through such dark times. We can’t wait to come out on the other side!

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